“A belief is nothing more than a chronic pattern of thought, and you have the ability – if you try even a little bit – to begin a new pattern, to tell a new story –
…… so says Abraham, in ‘Money and the Law of Attraction’
A common question today is “How do I raise my frequency to change who I am to who I want to be”, or ‘how do I attract new and better relationships”. They are one and the same.
Suggestions often include nutritious and pure food to respect and nurture our body, spending more time in nature – without the iPod, practicing meditation or using affirmations and visualization, time with mellow music or mantra and similar positive techniques. Everything we do for self-improvement will support improved lifestyle but noticing our thought process to access emotional beliefs is key because our beliefs are the foundation of our consciousness, our individual frequency.
Awareness of our own thoughts and tone of conversation, both in general and especially around topics that irritate us, can indicate the source that reflects into life pieces we’d like to change. It’s where to begin when looking for the cause of our emotional state or resonance.
What are the stories we repeat to a confident? That answer may reveal much about our inner thought process. It can show how often we reinforce an unsupportive habit rather than dissolve it. Our speech patterns become an extension, more powerful than we usually acknowledge. They express our attitude and our choices. Within our criticism lies the root of why we continue to repeat self-sabotaging habits or why we continue to attract similar unsatisfying experiences.
This is a special time in a age where change is happening rapidly to everyone and everything on the planet. Our level of contentment as we go through these rapid changes is visible within the content of our words and our feelings. Attached to those patterns is our emotional framework that attracts the experiences we live. In this view we can see the importance of our thoughts and words that become our expression and actions.
Because we often don’t hear or see our own patterns, we may benefit at some point from the objective perspective of a skilled psychotherapist, NLP practitioner or hypnotherapist, but there is much we can initially uncover with self-analysis. Permitting some time with self to notice your thoughts can be a revelation in itself!
Whether habitual patterns of negative beliefs began with a personal tragedy, a parental relationship, a friend or acquaintance, our greatest clue as to how much we are stagnating or changing is expressed through our thoughts and verbalization.
We have all met people who did various things and therapies to change the patterns of their life but their circumstances don’t seem to change. If we consider their topics of conversation, it often will continue to reinforce emotional patterns that began in their childhood or during some early experience of struggle. When those experiences continue to either be ignored or to re-surface as the reason for adversity, the emotional impact of whatever occurred is continually reinforced but not resolved. Seen in this content, the well-known phrase that “thoughts are things, choose good ones”, is particularly poignant!
So – how do we resolve those emotional issues if repeatedly talking about them doesn’t do it?
One of the major learning tools of society today seems to be in accepting responsibility for our choices and realizing that we do have the power to change. Many who point to a parent that didn’t fulfill their role to the extent the adult child felt was needed, have not acknowledged that the parent probably received no better or even less support for their growth patterns than was later extended to their offspring. This lack, left unresolved, can reflect into a partnership to be repeated.
It’s important to be responsible for your adult self to accept or resolve the emotions in your life. This includes self worth. Only the individual has the ability to examine those habits and realize the limiting effects of blame, whether for self or others. A healthy concept is that there is no blame, only experience. What you do with that experience is what determines your journey.
To raise your frequency then, begins by adjusting your thought patterns which change your perspective. As a dear friend once suggested to me, begin ‘noticing’ where your thoughts are throughout the day. I wrote post-it notes as a reminder for “Noticing?”….. sticking them up throughout the house. Each time my thought was not in a happy space, I reminded myself of how blessed I am, how fortunate I am for the many reasons that I am.
That will include everything from your mobility level to your health, your shelter and supportive family or friends, education availability, the career or the country you live in, the opportunities of the age you were born into, the access to resources that exceed any known age at this time. Remember the wise adage: “I cried that I had no shoes until I met a person with no feet”.
Your spirituality is not the least of your blessings. Spirituality is not the same as religion but is the other important link to increasing your consciousness. Accessing your spirituality and higher self can affect the forgiveness of self or of others that you would not otherwise expect to occur. It allows for spontaneous realization of the ‘why and how’. You must ask for this.
A distinction between spirituality and religion is that religion can be viewed as a man-made form of honouring something greater than the individual right and promoting ethical behaviour that respected more than self-gratification. It was fashioned throughout the ages according to the mental capacity of society at a given time. While it may not have kept pace at times nor remained true to the human ideal, it served a higher purpose to outline ethical behaviour. We must be careful to not ‘throw the baby out with the bath water’ in our current judgments.
In contrast, spirituality occurs within self from your own efforts. It links us to the best of our being as part of a divine intelligence much larger than humanity. If Einstein acknowledged ‘divine design’ through a mathematically patterned universe, evidenced in nature through the fibonacci spirals, sequences and golden mean, should it not give pause to consider that there may be more within that grandeur than……the human?
The label of spirituality, divine design, creation or God – can at the least be acknowledged through accepting that the level of humanity’s consciousness and the respect of all life, is what determines our status on the ladder of evolution. In the less lofty realm of our personal life then, it all begins in our own backyard with ourself. It’s an individual journey. It does not require a teacher although a few sign posts en route may be helpful as shared experience.
When respecting your body with nurturing foods and habits, use of affirmations, visualization and mindful awareness are combined with accessing your higher self, your desire to change your life patterns will simply occur over time without you really noticing until one day, you are the change that you desired.
….. to the success, and joy, of your journey,
Virginia
